#AY FUCK I CANT BELIEVE YOUVE DONE THIS HOW TO#

This is the behaviours and mindset centred around the bewildered disbelief you experience when someone that you secretly or even openly acknowledge as being a poor choice for a relationship or ‘beneath you’, doesn’t want you. Why? Because aside from my ego not being able to take it and wanting to ‘prove’ myself to him and not having enough self-respect, I also suffered with I Can’t Believe They Don’t Want Me Syndrome also known more crudely as Why The Eff Doesn’t This Loser Want Me!

I too remember not being that into an ex and yet I stuck out the relationship on and off for two years. It’s almost like it doesn’t matter what shitty qualities these guys have – we want the validation.

#AY FUCK I CANT BELIEVE YOUVE DONE THIS HOW TO#

Katie is practically stalking a guy who has cheated on her, slapped her about, and told her he’s done with her.Įven though Val’s guy took off with thirty grand of her money and left her struggling with debts, her biggest concern is not how to get the money back or how to recover, but why he chose to be with the other, seemingly less attractive, less successful woman instead of her.Ĭountless women have shared stories with me of being involved with a guy who blew hot and cold, used them for sex, still had a wife or girlfriend, cheated on them, disappeared regularly, took their money, used them for a job, used them to gain access to their friends or to enhance their career, was disliked by all and sundry, or whatever the story is, and you know what?Įvery, single, last woman was still expressing disbelief that somebody who had behaved without love, care, trust, and respect and had shown themselves to be a poor relationship partner, didn’t want them. But the reason why she wants him isn’t because she actually wants and loves him but because she is seeking validation of her worthiness and self-worth because she doesn’t understand how and why he has come not to want her. She’s known him since she was child and had worked hard to get out and achieve more than counterparts in her neighbourhood and yet her entire life has derailed in a matter of months because this loser doesn’t want to be with her.Įven she doesn’t understand why she wants to be with him as all he has going for him is being great in bed and very good looking. Guess who she’s pining for? A guy from the wrong side of the tracks who deals drugs, has spent time in prison and has gone back to his child’s mother. She’s beautiful, fun, outgoing, creative, runs a successful business as an attorney etc etc. Tags: assclowns, commitment resistance, emotional unavailability, he's just not that into you, I can't believe they don't want me, I'm not good enough belief, The No Contact Rule, Users and Being UsedĪ few months ago Mel got in touch with me.

Ay fuck i cant believe youve done this